Military relationships!! Harder than i thought.

Well this is my 1st relationship with someone from the military and i have to say i am head over heels for my guy. We talked for about 2mths before we actually met so that was a plus. Downside he was just deployed this month. Another up side he said he loves me. Downside kinda wish he would have waited til he came back to say it because it just made things that much harder when he left. Alothough we have decided to keep are realtionship going. threw email.mail etc and i love him very much and don't mind waiting for him I already miss him like hell so to all you ladies who have been threw it already and suggestions on how i keep my self from going crazy (lol) with out him. Cecy

I know things are going to be hard, but keep yourself busy with whatever you do, job, school, whatever. I know a busy mind helps keeps yourself from going crazy. When I was married, I use to set projects for myself and that would help with my longing for him. I truly think that if you keep yourself busy, and keep your communication open with your man, time will fly by. The key to this situation is to keep communication up and staying busy. Good luck with your man and hope to hear about you guys making it.

Trust your heart and instincts

My husband and I were married within 3 months of dating and were married one month before he deployed. Out of 2 yrs of marriage so far we've physically been together a total of 4 months. He is gone again for another year and I am at home pregnant lol It does get very hard, but if he has the luxury of internet access or has a laptop Skype is fantastic even if you can only use the web cam once a month! I always found it therapeutic to send him care packages every month, to remind me of what he loves and to remind him that I adore him. I hate being around couples when we are apart so I found things I enjoyed to do such as the gym, baking, learning a new language, even learning a new skill if you'd like!! I know there are so many down sides right now, but try to find the positive and use this time to get to know each other more and talk about the future!! This time can really make you both stronger! I also have awesome ideas for corky things to do or send to help as well!! If you need anything I'm here!! After all I have a lot of down time these days! lol Keep in touch and happy holidays!!

I agree with keeping busy. I've done a few deployments as a girlfriend and it was never really easy. But, as long as I kept busy, time went by a little faster. Try a new hobby, or set a fitness goal. Before you know it, you'll be planning a welcome home party :)

It will be hard, but if you both are willing to put in the effort needed to make it work, it will be amazing. I am in the Army, and will be soon deploying to Afghanistan. I am seeing a girl who I like a lot and that was one of the first things I told her before we became serious. Things that she does that helps... Show that you support him. Nothing helps a soldier get through a deployment more than knowing that he has someone waiting for him to come home to. Try to keep drama to a minimum. We have enough to worry about over there, adding to it something that he can't do anything about will just make him worry. Talk often. Even if it is just an email or a letter, it helps

I wish you both the best of luck.

I completely understand how you feel. I just started a relationship myself with an old friend of mine. I also found out that he is gettin deployed at the end of this year. Lucky for me I have college and my son to take care which helps out with keepin busy. I miss him alot and we talk everyday now. I'm plannin a road trip to go see him before he deploys out. But I do understand.