anybodys wife or husband start dating once they left for schooling

hey my wife has been on dating and sex websites looking for matches.we are not split up or anything.she gets an allowance for paying rent and separation and i have seen only 350 dollars in the last 3 months.she isnt taking care of her children or her home life and she has only been gone for 3 months in texas for ait schooling. she wont answer the phone call me back or email me. also on one of the sex dating sites there is a comment from someone else saying she can screw like a porn star and take it like a champ.he is in the military living where she is stationed. she commented back to him that it was the best she ever had. i really dont know what to do about this.if someone could just lend an ear and listen or give me somke advice i would really like some help.thanks

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my ex did, and then later on we divorced because of it and other things

The problem is that you can't stop someone from doing what's in their heart. Her actions show how much she values your relationship. Life is too short to box yourself into something like this. Do not offer a second chance, just divorce. I haven't been through the exact same situation, but have been through something else similar. Life is too short to be wasting time on such a relationship. Sorry to be blunt, but there's no fixing this. Anyone who says otherwise doesn't understand the difference between reality and fantasy, or they don't want to hear someone speak the truth because it sounds harsh or it hits a little too close to home. Get out before she gives you a souvenir you can't get rid of. Man up and move on.

I've never been through this myself, but one of my buddies got screwed horribly by his ex-wife. While he was in Afghanistan, his wife decided to cheat on him, send him the tape proving it, and then when he got back took thousands of dollars from their account, ran up a lot of credit in his name and left him with nothing.

I felt bad for him because he went through hell with that woman, but he moved on and got over it. I suggest you do the same, divorce her before she really screws you over, and do it fast. It's a sad situation, and I'm sorry for what you are going through.

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What does your Gut say? Listen to your heart D*I*V*O*R*C*E! (Fast) it will only hurt the kids worse the longer it goes on.

Wow! That is really a lousy thing to go through. I am sorry. It sounds as if you are making all the attemps, maybe comment on the blog yourself. "I am hoping she misses her husband". How long have you been together & at what age? Listen to your heart & NOT your head:~)

I've been thru the same thing and we had a daughter.. We seperated when my daughter was four years old, she is now 26. I didn't see her until she was sixteen. I wasn't going to bicker sides with her mother who was right or wrong . I was unfaithful ,and so was she. I was young and inmature and today my daughter and I are very good friends. She will be here the end of May and we will vacation in the Ozarks. SO, time will heel your problems and you can have a great relationship with your kids. People say you can't change the spots on a leopard. I'm happily married for the second time (20 years now) and our youngest daughter will graduate the end of May.

You have private mail. Sorry to hear that. ...........

I totally agree with Chicone Kootsvayouma. Get a reality check and move on. Don't let her ruin the present and future for you.

February and here it is May and they still are not here. On top of that she has stolen thousands of dollars from me and she is supposed to be paying the bills with it. I would change my direct deposit but then my kids would go with out. I have also been told that the painter has moved into my house at fort hood but I can not prove it. So I know what you are going through, and I wish there was an easy answer for you. I know everything tells me to leave her and that is what I would tell any Soldier that worked for me to do but this is something you need to decide for yourself just like I have to. I wish you the best of luck!

Why don't you contact her CO. When you posted you stated you weren't divorced yet and i know the military doesn't take well to cheating which is what she is doing.

I totally agree with Just A Girl, im still legally married to my husband who is cheating on me while he's deployed and that's what i did....

Wow! Steven you need to get ahold of her chain of command hell if you need help I'll help you all I need is her name...

if you still have the info from the site print it off to use as evidence any transactions that you can get ahold of that can be used as evidence keep ahold of it, if here chain of command is willing to work with you, you can have her persecuted under USMJ. You just need to have as much evedince against her as you can get

Unfortunately an old friend from highschool had this happen with both of his marriages. He is now 23 with 1 kid and 2 divorces. I know it's hard to have to wait for someone for such a long period of time but now he has to live with the consequences.

I'm sorry that you gotta go through this man, but you just gotta be strong. Hang in there.

It sucks but it happens in alot of military relationships. Which is a sad thing. However my advice to you is to go to her Chain of Command with the issue and any and all evidence you can get a hold of. Adultery is illegal in the military still. So id say divorce her and take the issue up with her command

Man that's tough. You should start by reading your letter back to yourself;
--someone has said she ''screws like a porn star and takes it like a champ'';
--she won't answer the phone or her e-mails;
--she won't take care of her children;
Now ask youself why you would allow anyone to do this to you. You can't love anyone until you love yourself first.