The Women that gives Military Wifes a bad name.

So I just got married and only been married for about 2 months. I live in a community where it used to be housing but most residents here are military families still. Im new here and the hubbys gone for school. My husband didnt want us living on base and he said you'll understand why someday. Not knowing that the place we moved to had a lot of military family. I started noticing that a lot of these wives sleep around with each others husbands, while their husbands away, and or when the wifes go back home to visit. Seriously they make the women who are faitful look bad. People in general thinks that all military wives are whores. But there are women that dont do that, like me. I made vows to be faithful and im sticking to them. What are your imputs on this situation?

well there are not many women out there who belive in stay faithful trust me i am one who can attest to it..but dont worry as long as u stay faithful life will be great.. have a great day and good on you..

I had the same problems with my husband. I am active duty military and my ex is reserves and was a stay at home dad. well he had countless affairs in our two year marrage, not just sleeping around but i mean full blown affairs. at least two of them where during when i was pregnant with our second child. Its not necissarily military spouses, its the community atmosphere, if everyone else is doing it then others are more likely to follow along and think its normal. at least thats what happend with my spouse, monkey see monkey do. Though I like you was completely faithful and am completly disgusted by the lack of fidelity around some bases that I have seen

Linda,
My husband and I were married a month and then he deployed for a year. We don't even live near a base since he was National Guard at the time now going active and people asked me to my face in front of him if I was a "Jodie"! In case you didn't know if you hear that word that's what it means a woman that cheats when her husbands away. My friends and family all knew I was faithful including my husband and that's all I cared about. I worked full time, went to school full time, took care of the house and bills, and was there 24/7 when my husband needed to vent or needed me to handle something for him. Whatever time I had left I was at Wal Mart getting his favorite snacks and games for care packages. As long as you know what you do for your hubby and that you are true is what matters. The cheating and lying will eventually catch up to these wives and husbands. As much as some of their spouses were cheating over here, there are soldiers over there doing the same trust me. We can look at it as women giving us bad names, or we can think of the many spouses that are true like us as well. There is a book I just read that was about actual events when this war 1st started, the soldiers came home on break or after the deployment and murdered their wives because they cheated. Soldiers on the post agreed the women deserved it because they were not only dishonorable to their husbands but their country as well. The book also pointed out that nobody makes a big deal what they do over there if they cheat but if the wives do then ppl believe were dishonorable and others feel we deserve death. How do you feel about that? I cant remember the name of the book, but if you want to read it I'll get you the name. Another wife wrote it from the base these women were getting murdered at, it was really good!

You know I beleave it is not just the wife�s, I think it is the husbands also. Like you said some of the guys cheat on there wife�s while they are deployed. Well they are doing it while they are at home also. It is not just army wives and men that are doing this happens all the time and can happen to anyone. Even though I was a bouncer for about 2 1/2 years i never cheated on my wife (all though I had plenty of offers) I was faithful. And you know what you get more respect for doing that then if you are banging everything you can get into your pants. It makes me sick there were 3 military families on the street that I lived on at fort hood and all of one of the husbands cheated multiple times and his wife stayed but as soon as he deployed to Iraq she started being a whore. Same with the one across the street from me, he was faithful to his wife though. But as soon as he deployed she found multiple men, had them living in his house the kids where calling the other guys daddy and stuff like that. Then there is my wife I don�t know if the house painter was the first guy or not but I have been told that there was other ladies that she had sex with and all kinds of stiff. But even though she has allegedly done all of this she still dose not deserve to be killed. We are not the law and that is what courts are for. And anyone that thinks they need to kill there spouse for cheating on them need to have there head looked at. But hey that�s just my look on the matter.

yeah well i was the faithful one in my relationship.... and i got cheated on.... my input is you stay clear of those ladies and stay faithful to your husband... and make sure he stays faithful to you as well.

When we were stationed at Ft _____, and us military spouses were waiting for our hubbys and wives to get back home from Iraq, there was a slew of rumors going around about one particular relationship and what was going on both there and here. i wont say any names because I have seen this particular soldier on a website recently and I will not tarnish their name. It's obviously a problem that will never be resolved.
But to be honest, the way I see it, is if you're NOT part of the PROBLEM, then you definitely ain't part of the SOLUTION!
Who cares what others are doing. Is it your business? I think not. So just keep your ears away from the gossip and your opinions to yourself.

To clarify the term "Jodie/Jody". That is the name that refers to the man with whom your wife is cheating. Refernce the cadence... "jodie's got your girl and gone".

You know, I lost my ex-wife(wife at the time) due to her cheating on me while i was gone in california training. so, i can understand your point, but then i also realize that it can be hard at times for a military spouse to have a relationship with a picture. I AM NOT CONDONING CHEATING, but I do try to look at both sides of the issue.

I've known my fiance for 5 years, and we're currently close to the halfway mark of his deployment. 6 months in, there have been numerous opportunities for both of us to cheat, after all, they do have internet and computers in Afghanistan. What it comes down to is the integrity of the person you're with. I have ended friendships because the women I had been close to cheated on their husbands downrange. It's lonely, no doubt, and some nights, all you want is someone to hold you until you fall asleep. Regardless, the promises we made to each other far outweigh any urges we may have. So while the opportunity is there, we both know that the other person isn't stupid enough to throw away what we've fought so hard for. For the last 5 years, we've only been in the same time zone for about 18 months. It's been hard, but we love each other. We're fighting to make it work.

I agree with Timothy, it is hard to have a relationship with a photo and a voice on the phone. But again, it's the integrity of the person that comes into play during situations like this. Wives who cheat while the husband is downrange make me sick to my stomach. They're selfish and careless. And people wonder why soldiers/marines/airmen/sea men come home and beat the crap out of their wives. These situations are usually why! (It's never okay to hit someone, but I understand why they do it!)

I for one, will forever be Faithful to my husband. I don't understand how a woman can do that, Especially when there men are deployed... Here there husband is out there fighting for our freedom, and all they can think about is who they are going to sleep with and how to hide it. It's disgusting. My husband and I made our vows, and took them VERY seriously. But not ALL or even MOST woman are like that. I don't have any USMC spouse friends who do that.

I recently married a soldier in the Army and one of his biggest concerns was me cheating on him while deployed because he sees how common it is. I think it's horrible that soldiers would even have to worry about this. Cheating in itself is a horrible thing but to cheat on someone who is overseas fighting for our freedoms is just sickening. I can understand where you are coming from Timothy but at the same time... when you marry someone in the military you know what you are getting into and you have to be willing to go without having that face to face connection all the time. That's no reason to cheat. If you can't handle them being away and remaining faithful, don't marry them in the first place.I have lost a few friends because they cheated on their husband, boyfriend, or fiance while he was deployed. That is one thing I have no tolerance for. My husband and I are moving to Ft. Sill in a few weeks and I hope to avoid the unfaithful people at all costs. When I married my husband I took my vows seriously and can't even imagine cheating on him. It's just sad that there are people out there who have such a hard time with something so basic as being faithful to the man (or woman) you married.
All I have to say is THANK GOD there are honest and faithful military spouses to make up for the unfaithful ones. It's just too bad they give the rest of us a bad name!

my X cheated on me while i was on a 4 month deployment. she got up with an army guy who deployed for over a year and for some reason she is faithful to him. she basically played both of us at the same time. he found out the hard way we were married when i got home and turned him into the 1st sgt. our divorce is almost final and she has wedding plans in place for the new guy already.

I think it all depends on your relationship and communication me and my wife went throught a deployment and we were both faithful she spent a lot of time with my parents and daughters and she went to school full time. we talked everyday night and everything went well. Every now and than you will get lucky and find a good one!

I have to agree with Private Burgess in that it is very difficult to be a military spouse or significant other. There is temptation everywhere thought end but if your realtionship was meant to work out and both parties do all they can to be faithful and true, it will work. It takes hard work but anything worth having is worth fighting for. Let others make their mistakes. Stand as an example that cheating and affairs are not the components of a good military woman.