R&R

So I'm pretty excited!
My boyfriend comes home for R&R in 19 days!! The odd part is, I haven't seen him in over a year, and I won't see him again for at least another year. It's kinda weird though, because everytime he comes home, it feels all brand new. Kinda like I'm meeting him for the first time all over again. && why can't the leaving part get easier?? Also, when he's home, what do we do? Hahaa. I need some sugestions. He isn't helping with any, even after I suggested going down the shore he didn't give me anything. You fellas should be able to help me out, right??

If you live in the south try Destin Army Rec Center. It is great. Good luck.

I know when I get back home in 3 months im gonna go buy some new cloaths at the mall, eat at the nicest restaurant I can find, and then go chill at six-flags with some friends... I think its a good start. Theres lots of other things that we find we miss after being gone for so long, I even miss just takin my dog for a walk every once in a while. I dont know what to say about the leaveing part though.. It dosent seem to ever get easyer. The only thing I can think of is you go live where hes stationed (if not deployed)

He's being redeployed soon, && that's probably the main issue, aside from the fact that we're not married.
He doesn't seem interested in doing anything, though, && I want to make his leave fun and memorable, yah know? && the bastard makes it IMPOSSIBLE to do that for him! Hahaa. I shoulda just kept the XBOX I bought him at my hosue for when he came home, && then let him take it back with him when he went back after leave lol. Maybe he'd have a good time then.

Tie him up =)

My hubby comes home 8 days for 12 days!!!! I am so excited! However I too am not looking forward to saying bye. But who does? Our whole marriage thus far has only been goodbye's. The first bye was the easiest for me. Then when I got to Fort Hood for 4 days b4 he deployed it was the hardest. Now I bet that it'll be harder after r&r. Sometimes we both wonder if it's even worth it? All I can say is have the most fun you can on his leave.....and don't overwhelm him with things to do. I tend to do that and my husband says all he needs is to be holding me, and we can go out once in awhile, but he just wants to be with me. I booked us a 3 day get away at lake Erie so we can both relax and get away for a lil. I'm tired of only seeing my house ha ha. But other than that we're not doing anything special. Maybe try finding something special for the 2 of you to do 4 a few days. This way you feel like your doing something romantic and he's happy just being with you. As for the goodbyes, I'm stupid and hold back my tears til he leaves. I read too army books on this stuff about staying strong for them and making it easier on them.....but I've learned that's not the best way either. Hope this helps. Have fun and good luck

Thanks soo much. I used to be pretty good with holding back until after he left. All I want to be is strong for him. But he always makes me cry now, even when he's not home hahaa. I'm thinking about Wildwood, but he's so concerned with money, && that irritates me too. The one time he wants to be responsible with his money is when he's home. Every other day he just doesn't give a crap hahaa. I'm going to make it a good leave for him though. 14 days and counting!!
Wish my luck, Guys !! If you have any more suggestions PLEASE let me know!!

I booked the hotel so now he has no choice. LOL and the secret is get a hotel that takes military discount. Then it wont be as big a deal if it's cheap. Then you both get what you want and hes happy 2! GOOD LUCK!!! Im so nervous to see Eric! Less than a week!!

10 days!! I'm getting pretty excited. Kinda nervous, too. Is that weird?? I mean don't get my wrong here, I cannot WAIT to see him, but it's been over a year. I kind of don't know what to expect. It's going to be a good time though. I think we're going to do the shore for a day, and then just relax the rest of the time, and just let it riiiiiiide by. I just want him to have a good time while he's home. Well, I guess I'll talk to everyone later!! With love - from the city of BROTHERLY LOVE !!

I dont know what its like to have a boyfriend being gone then coming home. I know it was killer though when my brother deployed. He is my best friend and losing him for a year was the hardest part. I remember though when he first left, I went to the airport with him. It was so hard. I told myself I would be strong and wait until he was out of sight before I started crying. Because I didnt want to him to see me cry, and make it harder on him. But It didnt work that way. I started crying as soon as i said goodbye to him. So the day he left from R & R to go back. that morning. I walked up to him and gave him a hug and walked out the door. I wouldnt say goodbye to him because it was to hard. And it worked for the both of us. He understood why I couldnt go to the airport with him. And I think part of him was greatful that I made the goodbye easier for him. I mean dont get me wrong. I still bawled as soon as I got home but it just seemed easier that way.
As for what to do on leave. My brother just wanted to chill with his family and get drunk as much as possible He really didnt want to do anything special. when he was home. But I guess everyone is different. But good luck anyways And I hope you guys have fun whatever it may be.

I don't know what it's like to see a boyfriend during R&R either because he broke up with me right before = ( BUT, I would most definately be staying in bed most of the time!! lol

this is my third deployment already and have my fiance leave and come back twice, yeah, its hard losing him for months at a time. it wasn't hard for me to leave it was the going back home when everybody was waiting for us when we got off the plane, i cried till i was completely dry. well, now my little brother has joined up and the thought of him coming out here and me not being able to see him and take care of him like i used to when he was little, just kills me. i won't even be able to see him when i go home on r&r, he will be in afghanistan. the most i went without seeing my family is a year tops with the deployments but my baby brother, not seeing him for 2 years and 3 months, yeah that is a tough one. so i really feel you, kyler. all we can do and hope for the best and keep them in our prayers.

So my hubby was supposed to be home yesterday for 12 days, however his flight was canceled and he will be home this evening. I am so nervous!! I don't want to adjust to him being home too much, but at the same time I don't want to push him away! I have gotten used to him being gone that I'm not sure how well I will readjust to him being in bed with me or eating meals with me. I want all of this don't get me wrong. However, once he leaves again I'm back to being alone! Do you think I'm crazy? Please, I'm in desperate need of feedback!

So it is the middle of the night and I cant sleep! I know this is Eric's first night home and your wondering what I'm doing on here? I don't think I can sleep because I feel like I'm sleeping next to a stranger. I know we've spent more time apart than together but I thought everything would go back to feeling the way it was, and not like this. I am so used to doing everything alone and hogging all the bed and now for 12 days it's changing. Do you think maybe it's just I'm keeping up my guard so when he leaves again it's easier to readjust? I've never had this problem before, and I am super happy he is home!! I've been waiting what feels like forever for this, and I am not complaining! Maybe I had higher expectations during his r&r. Please give me advice! Thank you

Awl, Sweetie !! I think it has a little to do with you guard up because of his leaving. But it's probably just you being so excited that he's home. You'll be fine! You know he's not a stranger, but how long has he been gone?! You just gotta get used to it FOR NOW, && know that it's only for 12 days. I know it's hard, but just be strong, && take advantage of hogging the bed with him in there, I'm sure he'll love that hahaa. Try cuddling with him. Let me know how everything is going, Toots! I still have 4 days til my hubby leaves so I'm extremely jealous that you get to have that feeling and I don't yet! hahaa. Good luck, Babes.

RaeLynn - xo0x

OH !! Tell your husband I said thank you for everything he does. He's a genuine hero && one brave fella. && if he's smart, he'll take advantage of YOU when he's home hahaa !!

I had a girlfriend while deployed in Iraq and whenever I came home to see her it did feel really good and special. And like you said RaeLynn it does feel like you're meeting again for the first time. The first day I saw her we just chilled and talked about a lot of stuff. After that it was pretty smooth sailing, just going out on the boat and doing some fun things with a few friends. Just take it easy at first cuz sometimes it can be too much for somebody, especially if they've been down range and haven't been around a lot of close intimate quarters. Just don't be too pushy and everything should go smooth, but what am I saying? I'm only a guy. Ha.

Yeah, we're both pretty anxious about his coming home. && I tell him that it's different every time because of how much time we spend apart from eachother that I feel like I'm meeting him for the first time all over again. He doesn't seem to understand it, but I can't get rid of feeling that way. && getting used to him being home sucks cause of the readjustment to it with friends, && I get selfish and don't want to share him hahaa. But it should be a good time when he's home. All I do know is that even if he IS a stranger to me when he's home, he's the tall ass Army fella I fell in love with!! Thanks though, Hon. I appreciate your KIND words!!

RaeLynn - xo0x

SO - my hunnie is finally back in Alaska from his training in Cali, but he still hasn't gotten his plane ticket to come home .. ON THE 9TH !! I'm freaking out. But hopefully he gets his ticket today, cause if he doesn't .. he really is gonna be paying $1500 for the damn ticket!! UGH!! I hate stressing this shit out. I gotta stress him coming home and leaving, && then this on top of that. Some kind words, please?!

It's going to be fine! I was the same way except Eric was stuck in the air port for a couple days. He'll be home soon and you 2 will have a blast! Thank you for your help I feel better! We're doing great besides the fact he got wasted last night so no fun 4 me hee hee! Your hunnie will be in your arms b4 you know it so try not to get 2 worked up sweetie! I'll keep you 2 in my thoughts and keep me posted!