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| | Sorry but I find it funny when I hear "a man in uniform turns me on" because there are uniforms EVERYWHERE! The post office, McDonald's, local pizza place, etc! lol
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| | you know what , lol , your right so let me clarify the statement. A man in a MILITARY uniform. ........lol.
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| | thanks ann =] I don't disagree with you on that! lol. I know how to pick men let me tell ya lol.
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| | : P much better silly! lol I know what you are saying, though. It's the power that turns me on. The fact that they "do as they are told" and are tough.....
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| | I've been in a relationship with my soldier for close to 4 and a half years. We're not married, or even engaged for that matter. We dated for 5 months before he left but we toughed through it. We went through his first deployment and that was rough. I didn't think I'd be able to keep on with all that distance inbetween us. We also had a rough patch where he couldn't keep his pants on (twice), and he tried to lie to me the second time about it, but ended up getting caught. (You'd think he would have been able to do a better job at lying considering the 4,000 miles inbetween us, but MySpace is a good friend to me.) We broke up for a few months, but I couldn't stick it out without him. It just became a part of me to have him as a part of my life. I don't know how to keep the fireworks in the air while he's away from me for so long, but we sure do make sparks when he's home. It's mentally challenging enough to keep my mind set to the frequency of 6.19.04, because I love him so much. But I guess the only thing to really do is when you find someone who challenges you, whether it be the distance or the way that persons mind works, stay intrigued and don't let it slip through your fingers. Soldier's fight for what they believe in and for what they love. I think that's why he's gotten me so wrapped around his finger so tightly, cause he doesn't stop fighting for me and what he believes we will have in the long run. There's my sappy story. But hope it helps, LoveBug !!
RaeLynn - xo0x
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| | I will speak from my side of things,
When I was in ( 11 years ) I didn't want to get married and everytime I got deployed I would break up with whom ever I was with...The reason that I didn't want to get married is that I never wanted to leave a wife and possibly children without a husband and or father, the thought of me getting killed and leaving a wife and kids to fend for themselves always bothered me. I have nothing but utmost respect for the military families. I would always pull CQ on Christmas and Thanksgiving if one of the married guys got stuck with the duty on those days
The reasons I broke up with people before I got deployed is mainly for two reasons, 1) I didn't want the added stress wondering what they were doing (and believe me I had seen what it does to the guys when they got a "dear john" letter), and I never liked to hold people back from doing what they wanted to do. Most stayed friends even upon my return.
Besides after I had gotten out I finally met the one for me so the wait was worth it.
God bless you all and good luck in what ever relationship comes your way.
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| | That's some great perspective Bill. I wonder if that's why my dear ex behaved the way he did with me (irratically and abrupt) when he was deployed and just randomly broke up with me. It doesn't help the fact but it helps to understand....
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| | Just a girl;
I hope it helps somewhat...I know it still hurts at the time of break up but understand that if he/you wanted to break up for what ever reason that it is better for both in the long run. Can you imagine getting married and then after a year or so want to get a divorce? I am a firm believer in that marriage is a life long commitment. I read the posts a lot but rarely post, I like to see what others are like before I talk to them directly, You seem like a bright and intelligent person So take your time and find the right person for you and the rest of your life will be great (albiet a few bumps and bruises along the way : )
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| | ha ha thanks......he's stationed in Germany now and I saw him online and we began talking. Only talked a few times and haven't seen him on since = ( I will admit....I"m still not completely over him. I've tried moving on with my life but there is that spot in my heart that still belongs to him. I don't know if anything will come of it and I hope I'm not making myself unhealthy by still having that piece of my heart belonging to him but...I try, I really do try to live my life without my still being in love with him influencing that...
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| | JAG. Hang in there and all will work out for the better, trust me. Message inbound to ya.
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| | Well, I'm married to a "soldier" and I will be honest and say that it's more like he's married to his job rather than to me. And if some other woman was in the picture and I found out she better not let me find her. I don't like females who knowingly have affairs with married men. I think they have LOW morals to say the least and low self-esteem. I wouldn't date or get into a guy who isn't honest. If he has an ex-wife or kids you can bet he will paying all his money to her and those kids. Another thing to consider when interested in a military guy is the fact that they do LIE about their status. Also, you must always review a person's relationship history because that will tell you what will happen if you get involved with him. If he walked out on his wife & kids what do you think he will do for you? And one other note - and some advice from an older woman - NEVER let a man know how you really feel about him because he will use it to his advantage. Take charge of your emotions and your body - don't let a man tell you what to do or control you. Always challenge him if you feel he is trying to control you. Always look for clues in behavior changes - excuses or being secretive about his cell phone or other device he could have another woman.
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| | Well, so far I am surviving this deployment lol. My boyfriend is in the Air National Guard and is Tech Sgt. He left August 28th of this year and ever since we have been in contact. We met awhile back in Feb. 2008. Our relationship started as just a simple conversation as friends and turned into love. I thank God to find such a wonderful person like him. It is hard but the wait is worth it. I just recently found out like 2 weeks ago I am 7 weeks pregnant and both of us are excited about this new baby. I was suppose to be getting enlisted this December in guard but this was unexpected and now will have to wait. Some guys are jerks but not all of them are like that. I am so excited he comes home in March 2009.
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| | People are animals, and being in the military just helps bring the worst in everyone. We use the field time and the deployments and any thing to make excuses for what we do to other people. Not all military perssonel are that way and suffer from acts of our peers.
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| | I meet my wife while we both were deployed and now my wife is out the military and I am still serving. We have been together for almost 4 years and married over 2 years. A relationshp is what you make of it it has is ups and downs but if you use excuses for why you arent trying to make things work you made the wrong decsion by getting a relationship
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| | Everyone needs to remember that not every solider is the same!!!!
YOU may have one that talks to everyone all the time, even when your not around
YOU may find one that cheats and never tells you about it.
YOU might find one that cheats and it eats at him/her and they do confess
You may find one that is so faitful they may make you think that they are cheating..
Please think of this way, Each solider that leaves on deployment is home sick (even if they tell you they are not) they want those letters, pictures and calls to be special. They don't want there life to stop but it has to.
They all get told that the MILITARY DID NOT ISSUE YOU A SPOUSE!!!!!! So they are all dealing with the seperation just like you are so instead of asking 50 question about who that girl is on his myspace or who that man is writting you while your deployed just remember ONE thing NOT all SERVICE MEN/WOMEN ARE cheaters or liers there are some that are loving careing parents, husbands, brothers,sisters,aunts, uncle, and even grandparents.
MAY GOD BLESS EACH ONE OF THE TROOPS.
PS : YES, I was married to a MIlitary man and in my heart I would marry another one if ever given the choice... 
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| | my marriage while I was still on active duty was to a civilian. we were together 14 years but it was never happy, he just did not ever understand me and he resented the military. I had a 5 year relationship after that and he was prior service.........we were amazing together but he was recalled and sent to Iraq.,.....the time gone was just to long for him...........he came back very different than when he left and eventually married a girl he met overseas. I had missed him while he was gone, but i think it was easier for me. The success of a military marriage has a lot to do with the maturity level and committment of both partners.
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| | I joined the Army in 2005 and when I left for BCT I thought I had a good relationship until I was gone for all of a min and he cheated. Once I got to my 1st unit and I had been there for about 5 month I started seeing someone things were hard at 1st but now 2 years and 1 deployment later we are still going stong and happily married and in April moving on to our new duty station together.
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| | My hsuband and I met and married in 5 months and have been married 18 years. Marriage is work and it takes both to make it work. I believe marriage is hard whether in the military or not. We completely support each other and I am very proud of him and his career. You can imagine how many couples we have seen marry and divorce. We have a daughter 17 and son almost 14 and they tell us that they are closer to us than any of their friends are to their parents. Military life has definately contributed to that. We have had our share of ups and downs but I'm thankful because it has made us stronger.
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| | My husband and I were both active duty when we met in Germany (same unit luckily). We met back in 2004 and married in 2005. We both deployed in 2006 and transferred to National Guard in 2007. We are still married (now expecting our first child) and are doing wonderfully!
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